How To Act Around An Ex To Quickly Get Back Together In 3 Powerful Steps

hi I’m coach Natalie welcome to my youtube channel this is love advice TV I get to work in collaboration with my two partners coach Adrian coach Alex on videos like this geared toward helping you self coach and rectify problems with your relationships we are relationship experts I help in optimizing the your chances your possibilities of getting back with an ex rekindling and most of these videos are geared toward our most frequently asked questions the most popular things that our clients call us about this video in particular is about how to act the MINIX in front of an X around the necks this happens a lot and maybe even college relationships or in professional work relationships where you know that you’re going to see them all the time it’s very important to act as cool and assertive and as calm and collected as you can a lot of us and naturally instinctively want to act really sad because we think guilt is going to make them regret their decision listen guilt is a very powerful tool for a very limited window it might make them feel sorry for you it might make them feel mad at themselves temporarily they’ll get over it guilt isn’t enough powerful enough of an emotion to rectify a relationship long term even if they take you back it’ll happen again you’re going to be watching this video all the same soon after I say that because guilt even to change you actually have to change anyway back to the topic so if you are around your ex all the time you need to be as tough as you can you need to look good you have to smile feel good go to the gym and I want to let your ex know that they do not define your sense of happiness that no one will rob that from you you make it for yourself and not only is that going to show your exit you can stand on your own two feet it’s a really attractive quality your ex is going to find it sexy to watch you be confident and not watch you be down the dumps and gloomy about the relationship I know again it might sound counterintuitive sometimes we want our exes to feel horrible we also might want them to come to our rescue we want them to say look at me I’m hurting I’m hurting how are you not trying to help me right now remember you guys broke up it’s not the responsibility to help you anymore and if they do it’s going to be more so out of feeling sorry for you then out of actually wanting to help you and you don’t want to be with someone like that what’s the point you want to be in that equal loving respectful relationship that is the goal right I would encourage you to be as calm and cool and collected as you can if your ex approaches you you be polite do not be rude I would encourage you really to just be busy what that means is hey how are you yeah thank you so much listen I’m actually going to go sit with my friends at the table I’m glad to see you’re doing well have a good one boom don’t linger a lot of the time we are so happy that they’re talking to us and we try to keep the conversation going oh I’m doing well well how are you Oh how was your weekend Oh what do you have planned for the upcoming holiday no let them know that you don’t need to speak with them you don’t need to keep in contact with them you are okay without them in your life just the way you were okay before they got into it don’t make it sound as though they are the epicenter of your universe that’s only going to empower them and take power away from you if you want the river to reverse these rules then you got to stand up tall be super busy driven purposeful in the way in which you behave and that’s going to be the best way to optimize it I would never be rude because if you want to get back with them later even if you don’t behave in a way that you would like to remember you don’t want to behave and frustrate them and generate animosity between the two of you because trust me that shit is way harder to fix later on another one you don’t want to do that if you behave calmly coolly I keep saying the same words calm cool collected but anyway if you make sure to kind of keep it even keeled it’s going to be way easier to rectify this in the future trust me and a lot of what I want you to focus on right now is to set to pave the way for that future if you want to get your ex back start working on it now don’t wait till later every move you make right now can be critical in determining your likelihood at materializing that dream that vision that does higher so if you want to get back with your ex put that in your head don’t linger don’t be guilt full don’t be sad don’t be down on the dumps be strong be attractive that’s attractive assertiveness is attractive seeing someone who has their stuff together that is attractive so remember what attracted them to you in the first place was it you sitting feeling sorry for yourself or was it you pep in your step feeling good looking good behaving well that’s likely what got them in the first place if you need help with specific tool or you find yourself to be in a very specific situation and you don’t know what to do I encourage you to either leave a comment in the section below or book a session with me I’d love to help you I coach a lot of people who either share a workplace or a social circle so on and so forth with their exes and we help put them in the best conditioning the best light possible and I look forward to connecting with you so thank you so much for watching this video I hope you got something out of it if you liked it please give it a thumbs up leave a comment share your thoughts with me if you find that there is a specific topic that you haven’t seen the video on on this website please let me know I would love to create the material for you Adrienne and I love the opportunity to make these no keep giving us some thank you so much